School comes easier to some children than it does to others. This is true even among siblings. However, it can be very difficult when your child is struggling academically. So here are some ways that you can help your children when they are struggling to keep up with their academics.
I have a friend who is an absolutely wonderful mother. I commend her every time I see her because her patience and obvious love for her children are so admirable. Sometimes she feels a little overwhelmed though because her daughter struggles a little bit in school. However, she and her daughter both bounced back quickly and despite her daughter’s challenges, she is really blossoming in school.
As I watch my friend handle her daughter’s academic challenges, I decided to share some tips that might help you if your child is struggling in school, too.
Be your child’s best advocate
One of the most important things that you can do is make sure that you are advocating for your child at school. You know your child best so it’s important that you voice your concerns and your suggestions to teachers and school administrators. If there’s something that works well for your child at home, tell your child’s teacher about it. Check in frequently to see how things are going at school. If possible, spend some time in the classroom so that you can see how the classroom is ran and the teacher’s teaching style. The point is that you want to be in partnership with the school to make sure that your child is getting the best education possible. You should really want to form an alliance with the teacher because you are on the same team – and that team should be dedicated to helping your child having the best school year possible.
Get rid of the fear of labels
If your child needs additional help, then it’s okay. I know many families who refuse to allow their child to receive special education services because they don’t want their child to be “labeled.” Having a classification isn’t a label meant to harm your child but is actually meant to help your child have a better educational experience. When your child receives additional academic support, then their grades improve, learning becomes easier for them, and their self-esteem increases. So don’t let your fear of labels get in the way of your child’s success.
Learn your child’s learning style
There are several different learning styles and if your child is being taught in a way that is not conducive to his learning style, then it’s going to be harder for him to learn. Figure out whether your child is a learner who is visual, audio, kinesthetic, or a combination of the three and encourage teachers to teach them in a way that they are able to learn best. It’s also important for you to supplement it at home and since you have a natural biological instinct for your child that the teachers don’t have, you’ll probably be able to reinforce material at home even better.
If you find that you are getting frustrated with your child, take a minute to put things into perspective. Your child is doing the best that she can and probably really looks forward to your support. Sometimes just taking a break and getting some fresh air can help you get back on track and refocus on giving your kid the support that she needs.
No comparisons – just focus on progress
Parents have a tendency to sometimes compare their children to their siblings or even to other children. Try not to do this. Your child is doing the best that he can and comparing him to others doesn’t help. Instead, focus on the positive. Look at the progress that he has made academically and compliment him frequently. Children who feel supported and are able to see their own progress are more likely to make continued progress than children who only focus on their weaknesses.
Struggles in school can be frustrating for your child so your support means the world to them. These are just some of the ways that you can help your child who is struggling academically.